We asked Black wedding planners and wedding photographers what advice they had for people of color planning weddings for themselves, and some of the advice we received is relevant to the wedding industry as a whole.
Black wedding planning is a challenging and rewarding industry.
The process of finding the right venue and planning the ceremony is challenging for any person of color.
If you are one of the lucky few who finds a venue that is a match for your needs, you’ll be able to make the most of your time and energy to plan a memorable and special wedding for yourself.
But if you have an experienced Black wedding planner who knows the ropes of Black wedding preparation, you can be assured that you’re in good hands.
Be honest about your goals, goals that matter, and your expectations.
“Black wedding planning doesn’t have a set timeline, so you have to be honest about what you want to accomplish and what you need to achieve,” says Jill, the wedding planner for Black weddings in Minneapolis, Minnesota.
“It’s a lot more challenging for me to write out goals that I need to accomplish in my life, but they’re also a lot easier to follow than I would have thought.”
The more time you spend writing down your goals and how you will accomplish them, the more comfortable you’ll feel in writing them down in your journal and planning them.
“I have to make sure that I’m actually doing things that I feel like I’m supposed to do, and it’s a big part of what I do,” Jill says.
“As soon as I get started, I can sit down and write down, ‘Hey, this is what I’m going to do.’
Then I can keep track of it as I go and write it down every day.”
Keep in mind the logistics.
When it comes to the logistics of the ceremony, Black weddings are usually the first thing to go.
“The big thing I think is, when it comes down to it, we have to think about how many people we’re going to have at the wedding,” says Natalie, the planner for a Black wedding in Boston, Massachusetts.
“And how many guests we’re having at the reception.
We need to be prepared, and there’s no doubt in my mind, there’s going to be a lot of people at the ceremony and a lot people at our reception.
So, if you’re going through that process, and you have a lot to say, and people are asking for your input and want to hear your perspective, you want it to be very clear that you are going to make it work.”
Black weddings, by definition, involve a lot less formal planning than a white wedding, so Jill recommends that you set aside a little bit of time to write down your wedding plans.
“You can write it out for the day before the ceremony.
For a white ceremony, you don’t want to do that because you’re not really prepared to talk about it,” she says.
Plan a budget.
You need to have a budget to plan your wedding.
Jill says that she can usually spend a little more than $500 on her first wedding.
But, if it comes time to move up to the next level, Jill says she can spend as much as $1,500 on a wedding.
“If I need more money, then I can go into more of a budgeting mode, because I know that’s going in, but at the same time, I’m not going to spend that much on the wedding and I’m also not going into a lot much detail about what I plan for,” she explains.
Make sure you don.
The best way to make Black wedding plans work is to be as open and transparent as possible, and Jill recommends taking a look at her planner’s online wedding planner directory.
“Make sure you know who your wedding planner is,” Jill explains.
“That’s important because if you don, they’re going be so busy with other things, and if you want a little extra help, and they’re not going, you’re basically saying, ‘I can’t give you my best efforts, I need a little help,'” Jill says, adding that “if you’re honest with yourself, and say, ‘OK, I think I need $500 for this, but I also know I can do better, and I don’t have to do $1.5 million,’ you can have a great relationship with your Black wedding.
It will be so much more rewarding for both of you.”
“A lot of Black weddings have to deal with the fact that they’re a little nervous, because they’re just so new to planning their own weddings,” Jill adds.
“When we started, we didn’t know what we were doing, and we didn, and the only thing we had were the wedding planners.
And we were so nervous about the wedding, but once we had